Emotional dependency is as serious a condition as any other addiction, whether it be drugs, alcohol, or gambling. However, there is one key difference – here, the object of addiction is not a substance, but Strong emotionsThese individuals constantly seek emotional drama, conflict, excitement, or pain, as these feelings give them a sense of being alive. For them, the emotional "high" is as potent as the effect of a drug, and without it, life becomes dull and lifeless.
Why do we become addicted to emotions??
The causes of emotional dependency are often found in childhood. Individuals who grew up in an emotionally unstable environment—for example, in a household with constant tension or volatile emotions—are more prone to this condition. Their brain learns that life consists of conflict and chaos, and such an environment is perceived as the norm. Consequently, even in adulthood, they subconsciously seek out similar situations because peace feels foreign and uncomfortable to them.
An emptiness, that demands to be filled
Emotional dependency is often rooted in a deep Inner emptiness comes from a sense of inner emptiness. When a person feels lonely, insignificant, or unfulfilled, they try to fill this void with emotions sought from the outside. This could be an intense infatuation, constant arguments with a partner, or even seeking negative attention. Because of this, some may eventually become dependent on substances as well, as alcohol or drugs serve as a temporary and instant filler for that very emptiness.
The Victim Role and Manipulation
People addicted to emotions often adopt The Victim role.This allows them to constantly attract attention, gain sympathy from others, and evade responsibility for their own actions. They skillfully manage to manipulate those around them into becoming involved in their emotional drama. For them, this is a way to avoid being left alone with these emotions. They often do this unconsciously, as they simply do not know any other way to relate to others.
The Problem of Healthy Relationships
Emotionally dependent people find it very difficult to establish healthy, stable relationships. For them, tranquility is boring. They subconsciously create conflicts to return to the familiar emotional chaos. This leads to constant arguments, the breakdown of relationships, and the pushing away of people who truly value them. Healthy boundaries and peace represent a threat to them, as these force them to confront their own inner emptiness—something they are constantly trying to escape.
The Path to Help and Healing
Breaking free from emotional dependency is difficult, but possible. The first and most important step is becoming aware of the condition.Next, it is essential to work with a specialist (a therapist or psychologist). With the help of therapy, a person learns to identify their emotional triggers, cope with inner emptiness, and develop healthy mechanisms for managing emotions. It is a long journey, but the result—a peaceful, stable, and happy life—is truly worth the effort.
