"I thought the problem was with me," says a 32-year-old patient. "I kept silent for years, I was ashamed to talk about it, but now I know it’s a medical condition, not a flaw or a crime."
Anorgasmia is a word that terrifies and shames many women, but in reality, it is a condition much more common than we think. It’s an invisible battle—a painful journey that thousands of women go through every day.
When the body is silent
Imagine trying to reach a peak that seems attainable but remains unreachable. This is how women battling anorgasmia describe their experience.
"Everything is perfect—the partner, the environment, the desire, but the body seems to speak its own language," shares 28-year-old Mariam.
Symptoms – Invisible signs
The symptoms of anorgasmia are often sources of both physical and emotional pain:
- Constant disappointment and tension during sexual activity
- A feeling of disconnection from one’s own body
- Avoidance of intimate situations and complexes
- Emotional distancing from the partner
Two battles: Physical and psychological
Physical causes
As sexologist Eka Daraselia explains: "Patients often only think about psychological causes, but the body has its own story." Physical causes can include:
- Hormonal imbalance
- Neurological issues
- Side effects of various medications
Psychological causes
"Our mind is the most powerful sexual organ," says Eka Daraselia. Common psychological causes include:
- Past traumatic experiences
- Cultural and religious taboos
- Relationship problems
Vaginismus – A related but different condition
Many patients confuse anorgasmia with vaginismus, but these are two completely different conditions. In vaginismus, the vaginal muscles involuntarily contract, making sexual intercourse impossible, while in anorgasmia, the issue is reaching orgasm, not penetration.
The partner’s role – The invisible hero
"My husband was my greatest supporter," recalls Mariam. "His patience and understanding were crucial in my recovery."
Partner support can manifest in:
- Listening and understanding
- Joint visits to specialists
- Unconditional support
Psychotherapy – A journey to self and body understanding
Psychotherapy is not just talking about problems. It is a journey toward self-discovery. Therapy helps in:
- Processing traumas
- Getting to know one’s body better
- Improving communication
Medication
"Medications are not a universal solution," says sexologist Eka Daraselia, "but in some cases, they are necessary." Treatment is always individualized and may include:
- Hormonal therapy
- Antidepressants
- Specific medications
The healing path – Stories of victory
"Today, I am a completely different person," Mariam says with a smile. "I went through a difficult journey, but it was an important one for self-discovery."
Anorgasmia can be cured if:
- The patient seeks specialist help on time
- There is a supportive environment
- The patient is ready for change
Epilogue
"I want to say to every woman reading this and recognizing these symptoms in themselves—you are not alone," Mariam concludes. "This is not your fault, it’s a common issue, and there is a solution."
Anorgasmia is not a sentence. It is a condition that can be treated and overcome with the right approach, support, and the help of professionals.
This is precisely why the 4&8 center was created— a place where a team of professionals will take care of your better life. From sexologists to psychotherapists, everyone is ready to lend a helping hand and stand by your side until the problem is completely resolved.
